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11-Jun-2017 02:14

We go to the movies, go to dinner, come home, have sex, hold each other and talk, etc.

All things he did with them, and yet somehow he says it’s not the same to him and I don’t understand.

And you need to consider that his friends are his friends for reasons that they might be (or might have been) yours, too, if you let your defenses down and thought about them as individuals rather than women-your-boyfriend-used-to-bang.

And then you need to look deep within yourself and separate out that piece of all of this which is the socialized understanding that women are in competition with one another for the supposedly scarce resource of men.

I feel like as long as he remains friends with these women, he’ll never be truly committed to me. But let’s break down the real problem: you two have very different conceptions of what sex means to each of you.

The fact that he’s done all the things with these fuck buddies that he does with me makes me feel cheated in a way.

So, look: no amount of fighting about it going to change what he’s done with other people and it’s not going to change about how he feels about sex and the consistency of its relationship to emotional intimacy.

And nothing he can say to you is going to make you feel secure about his friends or comforted about his personal morality when it comes to physical intimacy, because that sense of security is something you need to work out in your own head.

Maybe they went out and did stuff like go to the movies, maybe they talked about their feelings, maybe they did so before and after they had sex here and there.

But they weren’t his girlfriend, and you are – at least for now. And that’s really the only difference he can give you, because he can’t change the past, even if he wanted to.

The fact that he’s done all the things with these fuck buddies that he does with me makes me feel cheated in a way.So, look: no amount of fighting about it going to change what he’s done with other people and it’s not going to change about how he feels about sex and the consistency of its relationship to emotional intimacy.And nothing he can say to you is going to make you feel secure about his friends or comforted about his personal morality when it comes to physical intimacy, because that sense of security is something you need to work out in your own head.Maybe they went out and did stuff like go to the movies, maybe they talked about their feelings, maybe they did so before and after they had sex here and there.But they weren’t his girlfriend, and you are – at least for now. And that’s really the only difference he can give you, because he can’t change the past, even if he wanted to.You don’t even actually know if they’d ever bone him again, if they’ll still be single (or single again) at some future point after which you two might have broken up, or what they think of you (other than, I assume, that you aren’t very friendly, unless you’re an Oscar-award winning actress).